So, when the idea of being a dad came to be almost 8 years ago now, it was definitely a new experience. It was so surreal to think that I was going to be a father. Now, it seems like it was just always meant to be now that we are expecting our fourth child. It was dream of mine to have a family as I got older, but it hasn't always been my dream, not wholly.
Growing up I was able to experience a lot of different things. I played football, baseball, and soccer as a small kid. I went to sports camps and was pushed to be a little athletic. I dreamed of being a great sports star. My parents never took the time to tell me that my shot of making it to the pros was slim to none, one in a million. They let me have that dream and as most things do in small children, it changed over time.
What were your dreams growing up as a kid? Did you dream of being an astronaut or a fireman? Did you want to fly to the moon or did you want to own a horse farm? What did your dreams consist of? The reason I ask is that I believe we grown and develop as children based on our dreams and hopes. As young children most of us had imaginary friends we played with. We built forts out of blankets and had entire worlds made of Legos. We developed through our imaginations,our hopes, and our dreams. So as parent's, do we cultivate our children's hopes and dreams or do we introduce them to the hard facts of life early. I ask this based on a parenting theory I just read, parents should not lie to their children. The question is, what is so different from cultivating their belief in Santa Clause or the Easter Bunny and lying by omission, telling them their dreams of being the next world class ballerina is not realistic? I ask this in all seriousness because to me it is one and the same. Parent's fib to their children constantly, trying to protect them from the real world, trying to coax them into doing what is best for them, and trying to help them be children. Really, what's crossing the line.
Now, I know that this stretches the idea of being a good parent, but I think it just feeds to the fact in all reality, everything we do is to make our children happy and keep them safe. I believe that is the ultimate goal of all parents, We all just have different methods to get there. There is no single path better then another and we just have to accept that all parents are not created equal. Don't judge other families for wanting their children to live our their dreams. If I could say anything to a parent it would be to let your children dream, let them imagine, and let them enjoy being a kid. It doesn't get any better when you get older and your dreams consist of paying off your car. Let'em dream.